“You are guilty and deserve to be
punished”, said the man sitting on the chair.
This person’s opinion mattered because
the chair he was sitting on was placed on a pedestal, inside a court. This man
was a Judge.
When was the last time someone
expressed their opinion about you or something associated with you? “You’re so
boring”, “You’re not worth talking”, “You are arrogant”, “You are this/that/all
things bad.....”
Often, such comments come from a
third party source or in your absence. The thing some of us do wrong when we
come to know of such perceptions of ourselves is that we tend to take it a bit
too seriously and personally. In short, we validate their judgement of us. People
have the habit of saying anything and everything about others, how you
react to the opinions/ comments directed towards you is totally upto you. If
each thing someone says about you manages to book a convenient 2 room apartment
in your heart along with one farmhouse in your mind, my friend, you’re not a
good caretaker of the real estate that you possess.
The reason behind the first
three lines of this post is that by accepting others’ perception of us
(good/bad/ugly), we elevate them to the status of a judge, whose opinion does
matter. But that is not the case. If we all had a penny for everytime someone
said something about us, we all would be millionaires. When the passbook of
your life was printed, it’s sole owner was you and you alone. So why let others
influence and decide which course is best suited for you. I’m not asking you to
be a rebel, an outlier or a andhon me
kaana raja, all I’m saying is each person adds a certain flavour to your
life and it’s your prerogative to decide how much of each kind do you want.
When I was learning driving, the
instructor used to manage the clutch/break himself for the first few times. But
when he was confident of my abilities, he used to take a nap comfortably on the next seat while I drove in peace. So keeping the fact that I didn’t bang the car
anywhere and the instructor is still alive today, the point I’m trying to make
is people do, and should influence you but upto a point only. Once all the
mental faculties you possess are capable enough, you need not outsource the do’s
and don’ts of your life.
I believe sometimes we ourselves also
tend to do the same thing to others. If you did it and realized your mistake,
good but if you still think it is totally okay to frame and throw your opinions
about someone on them like a pokeball, please refer to the image below:
So now that I’ve given a lot of
gyaan, I’ll end this post here, hoping that what I said struck the right chord
with you all, or you all might begin to judge me for what I write!!
Anyways, so next time someone passes
a judgement on you, check if they are wearing the black robe and have that
gavel thing in their hand. If not, just keep walking.....
Until next time...
Take Care :)
Take Care :)