Grass is Green.... even at your side...

I’m saying this beforehand. Aaj mai thode philosophical mood mein hoon.
So I will do a little gyaan distribution ceremony today. If you like it, well and good,
if you don’t..... well don’t like it then... AUR KAR KYA SAKTE HO ???

The following is a piece I wrote when I was a content writing intern with a website.
Socha aap sab ke sath bhi share kar lu.

What do you think the above diagram is all about?
Is it a plausible quantitative aptitude question? NO
Is it in any way related to studies? A Big NO
So what the hell is this!

You see, when I compiled my CV, and submitted it for internships, I mentioned therein that I have good knowledge of MS Office (aur wo maan bhi gaye !!).
So I placed this diagram to show I know a thing or two about MS Word. 

Okay, that was a bad one. Jokes apart, the diagram above is what we all have in our lives, with or without knowing. The six alphabets mentioned therein are pretty much like actual humans. Figure this out:

A envies B because B is taller than him; B envies C because he got admission in a top college while B didn’t; C envies D because all the girls are after him; D is jealous of E because he is really intelligent; E doesn’t like F because F’s parents allow him to party late in the night; and finally, F envies A because he is liked and respected by everyone.

So did you sense something here? Each one of them has certain qualities or aspects about them that makes the other envy them, and despite that, each one is bothered about the other, thinking he is better.

Although the example was pretty lame, but it pretty much fits in our lives. No matter how mature we get, there are times when we think that XYZ person has a better life because he has this and that.
Is this thought really worth our time?
I hope your answer is NO because if it’s a YES, dear reader, I’m afraid you don’t value yourself, and when you do, you do it through others’ eyes. Each one of us has something in us or about us which may make the others around jealous.

•     "He is the class topper. He will get admission in any top college easily. His life is set. What does he have to worry about?” Nobody thinks he too might have some issues with his life.
  
•     "They have been in a relationship for 3 years now. I wish my life was like that.” Who knows, may be the so called couple may not be as happy as they seem.
  
•     “She goes to parties almost every other day and yet her parents don’t say anything to her. I wish my parents were like them.” May be, that girl’s parents don’t have any time to give her. 
  
  
  That saying, “Grass is always greener on the other side” applies to all of us. There must have been times when we found ourselves thinking like in the above cases. It’s okay to feel like that, after all we are humans, but it’s important to learn and value your self too. (Note: that doesn’t mean you spend the entire day in front of the mirror!) 

•       Sachin Tendulkar is  5’6", and even the tallest of bowlers are afraid of him. Did he let his height come between his dreams?
  
•       Vidya Balan doesn’t have the size zero figure, yet she has carved a niche for herself in the industry and won a National Award. Would she have gotten here if she constantly compared herself with others?
  
•       Nawazuddin Siddiqui struggled for years before he was finally appreciated for his talent. He could have easily believed that he didn’t have the looks and acting was not his cup of tea, but did he?

The examples are endless. You, yes you can be another one. Remember that you may feel that “someone” has a better life because of this and that, but you never know, you might be that “someone” for someone else as well.


Until next time....

Take care :)

Doing the RIGHT thing at the WRONG time...

Anger. 

Fury. 

Annoyance. 

Rage. 

Irritation. 

Gussa. 

All the above words mean the same and we all are familiar with them. You know there are times when we forget that a human being was the most sophisticated creation of God, and tend to think irrationally, get a tad too emotional at times, take things at heart, say things we later might have to regret... all because of a sudden torrent of anger. 

When I was young, I mean vaise to I’m still very young, but I’m talking about the bachpan time, I used to have a really short temper. I was pretty much like perfume, HIGHLY FLAMMABLE. You would never know what thing or word might annoy me and cause me to break all the bandhans of sanity. My family members have been a witness to that. Once, I just refused to have dinner because my mom jokingly talked about admitting me into a government school! I’ve had fights over the pettiest of issues with my friends. Once, I remember, while playing cricket in the ground, my friend who was batting, accidentally hit my watch with the bat (zyada visualize mat karo, wo shot maar raha tha and mai uska runner tha !!), the watch cracked. I reached my boiling point within seconds, stormed out of the park, and later went to his house to yell at his mom and demand COMPENSATION FOR MY LOSS!! Kya din the wo!! 

But then as they say, main bada hua and got some sense of maturity. I gradually began to stay quiet at such times which would anger me, just to make sure that I didn’t do or say anything which I might have to regret later on. I kept the things to myself, and got normal after a few minutes, hours or days. In hindsight, this “keep the things to yourself” wali line ko maine zyaada dil se laga liya, and became a sort of reserved, reticent person. Chances are if you don’t know me and we meet somewhere, I won’t be really coming up to you to strike a conversation or ask “How You Doing?”, but if you do get to know me, I am pretty sure I can guarantee you a friend for life. (Haan, maine thodi self taareef ki!!) 

Sometime back, I didn’t have the most pleasant of conversations with a friend, and if I was still the person I was 7-8 years ago, I am pretty sure I would have made things worse and wouldn’t be writing this here now. I realized it wasn’t anyone’s fault, and chose to stay quiet, rather than lashing out at her. In fact I decided not to talk to her for a while, not because I was upset with her, but just to get that clarity in my mind and make sure there were no ill feelings for her.
The need to get that clarity stemmed from the recognition of the fact that she wasn't to be blamed for her actions. I did get that clarity eventually. At present, the equation between us may not be the best like it was earlier, but it could have been a lot worse. And again, mai khud ki tareef karunga aur kahunga ki I’m proud of the way I dealt with the situation, not just that time but on several other instances. 

To the contrary, now I'm the one who calms down my mother when she gets unreasonably angry over something... that’s thodi bahut maturity I’ve mustered over the years. To anyone reading this who feels he/she also have a short temper, just remember..... 

                    “How you deal with a tense situation depends on one thing.....

                 What matters more to you.... the ARGUMENT, or the PERSON?


Until next time,
Take Care. 

AAGE KYA KARNA HAI ???

There are over 6 billion people in this world. Each one of us knows some of them. Each one of them asks a silly question at some point or the other. Today, I will share with you one such silly question which I’ve been often subjected to. Now when I say silly, I mean those questions which you are not willing to answer or are bored of answering because of the persistence with which they are asked again and again.

So, one such question is Aage Kya Karna Hai?

For the angrez readers, it means “What’s Next?” When I was in Xth standard, they asked me this question. When I was in XIIth, they asked me again, now I’m in college and fir se this question of “aage kya karna hai?” pops up almost every other day. Now, if you have paid some dhyaan, you’ll notice I used the term “they” to denote those who ask this question. Reason being that this pronoun encompasses every individual, from the mother who gave birth to you to the person sitting next to you in the bus or metro.

Now the problem is that most of the times I have no idea what I will be doing half an hour later, so how can I tell someone what I plan to do three years hence? Chalo mera to khair koi nahi, my parents get in the spot when someone asks them what their aankhon ka tara plans to do next. When I don’t know, how can they know? So many a times they gave imaginative answers on their own to dodge the situation. 

Just to give you a simple example, going by what my parents thought of what I will be doing next, I would have started tuitions in class IXth, opted for engineering in XIth OR CA after XIIth or CS and then MBA in finance afterwards. I’ve used OR here because as I progressed, I ended up putting paani on their sapne. They wanted me to join tuitions in IXth, I didn’t. They wanted me to pursue engineering, I opted for commerce. They then wanted me to go for CA, I went for just simple graduation. They were then hoping that at least I would do MBA in finance, but now they know that’s not going to happen either. 

Why are people so obsessed with this question? I’m sure you all must have been asked this aage wala question many times. Aur ye jo relatives hote hain naa, inka to favourite question hota hai ye. 

As a matter of fact, sometimes when people ask me this question, I choose to give some frivolous answers. Consider this..

THEY: Aage Kya Karne Ka Plan Hai? 

ME: Shaadi. 

THEY: I mean use pehle...

ME: Oh! Aise bolo na.... Sagaai.

THEY: Usse pehle??

ME: Usse pehle to I guess ROKA hota hai naa???

Now after these kind of answers, either the other person himself changes the topic, or if he/she still persist, I've to give them some elite sounding reply which has that padhai wali feeling to it!!

So, I wrote this post, have dutifully shared this with you and I'm hoping that you’ve read this.

AB AAGE KYA KARNA HAI???

See you next week... 

Until then.. 

HAPPY NEW YEAR and take care. :)